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[boatman]

well Bob mate you have done your bit at 160 visits wow an hope your mum is feelin a bit better an nice bit of work on that bridge boyo well done so far
chris

[BattleshipBob]

Sorry to hear that Bob.
Pete

Thanks Pete, getting harder as mum gets worse, but what can I do? Nothing!

[BattleshipBob]

well Bob mate you have done your bit at 160 visits wow an hope your mum is feelin a bit better an nice bit of work on that bridge boyo well done so far
chris

Thanks Chris

Last post until finished, same goes for Fletcher

[stillp]

Thanks Pete, getting harder as mum gets worse, but what can I do? Nothing!

Look after your own health Bob, by the sound of it you've done all you can for your mum.
Pete

[BattleshipBob]

Look after your own health Bob, by the sound of it you've done all you can for your mum.
Pete

Hi Pete, not 100,% managed to get a cancellation at the docs, that was a shock for starters lol.

She believes that the stress and worry about mum is a big factor but must carry on regardless. Mum never let me down.

[Jim R]

All the best Bob. A very upsetting and stressful time. Although almost impossible try to be kind to yourself.

[BattleshipBob]

All the best Bob. A very upsetting and stressful time. Although almost impossible try to be kind to yourself.

Thanks Jim, the tumour is spreading but no symptoms at the moment. The frightening thing is how quick the dementia has come on. So sad to see my real mum slipping away

[scottie3158]

Bob,
Sending our best wishes, stay strong mate.

[Tim Marlow]

Thanks Jim, the tumour is spreading but no symptoms at the moment. The frightening thing is how quick the dementia has come on. So sad to see my real mum slipping away

Sorry to hear this Bob. We had the same with my mother and my wife’s father. After their strokes all that was left was dementia and fear, no recognition or cognitive function. One day they were fine, next day they were just gone. What I found terrifying was how quickly the weeks of daily hospital visits became normal while we waited for the inevitable to happen. In the end all you can do is ensure they are comfortable and well looked after.
Be kind to yourself though. You can only do your best and can only do what you can do. Stressing over what you can’t do just makes it worse. You are doing all you can, and that’s enough.

[BattleshipBob]

Thank you both

I can now fully appreciate the horrible situation people are in when they care for a loved one at home. The gov has to do more to help. At the moment a conversation with mum is about 10% ok but the rest! She tells me that helicopters drop off German troops, the nurses take bribes and hire the beds out. I have to smile otherwise I'd need a bed myself.

I greatly Appreciate the kind words and thoughts but I will carry on regardless. I owe her a debt I can never even get close to repaying.

[stillp]

The last time I visited one of my aunts, she kept asking me when her husband Paul was coming to see her. He was in the same room of their house, just a few feet away from her.
When I left them, I had to drive around the corner and burst into tears.
Paul looked after her for another couple of years. He seemed quite cheerful at her funeral, and said he was just burying an empty shell, his wife of nearly 60 years had gone away years before.
Pete

[BattleshipBob]

It's horrible Pete and I really do sympathise with anyone living with and helping a loved one at home. Mum's not that bad gladly but I can see it slowly getting worse. It came on so quickly.

[stillp]

It came on so quickly.

Yes, my aunt seemed fine just a few months earlier. She'd been diagnosed with Alzheimer's but it didn't seem to be affecting her.
Pete

[JR]

Keep going Bob, Julie needs you .All will work out.Keep posting as well !

[BattleshipBob]

Keep going Bob, Julie needs you .All will work out.Keep posting as well !

Thanks John, kind of you